Mother Theresa was a Christian woman who lived out her convictions in real life. If you want to see what love and self-sacrifice look like, she embodied it. She lived a life of purpose and her life will echo into eternity. When I’m looking for inspiration about what it means to glorify God in my career, I go to Mother Theresa.
But sometimes I go to Meagan Good.
Because Meagan Good is a Christian woman who has lived out her convictions in a real romantic relationship. Because when I look at her and her husband I see a reflection of how God intended marriage to be. Because in her I can see how it is possible to glorify God even when you’re still a work in progress.
If there is one thing that I think most believing women struggle with, it is the question of where our sexuality fits in with our faith. It’s something that I’ve seen in unmarried women especially. In our conversations we talk a lot about women who are exemplary in business, politics and everything else under the sun, except relationships and sexuality.
Today, that changes. Let’s talk about Mother Theresa and Meagan Good. Look at them less as polar opposites and more like two different people who can teach us different things about womanhood.
Why you should be less like Mother Theresa…
You’re not running a children’s home. I know you’re a great cook, you love doing the laundry and he’s kind of in-between jobs right now, but it’s not your job to mother boys in grown men’s bodies. Many women mother men in the hope that the guy will realise just how indispensable she is and respond by way of a long term commitment. But that’s putting the cart before the horse. The commitment must come first and then the benefits.
You’re not a missionary. According to statistics (that is, looking at the congregation every Sunday), there are more women in churches today than they are men. So sisters are doing it for themselves and taking matters into their own hands – missionary dating. This is just the “I can change him” belief with a churchy veneer. Don’t make the man that you like a project. If you guys don’t agree on something as fundamental as Jesus Christ at the dating stage, say a little prayer and move on.
You’re not a nun. So stop acting like one. One day you want to find man that you’ll spend the rest of your life with. You’ll have the wedding of your dreams, build a house together and sit on your porch in your rocking chairs holding hands and smiling at each other from day 1 until year 60. Okay, scratch that. It’s okay to admit that what you’re actually looking forward to is that part of Genesis that says, And Adam “knew” Eve his wife. Be pure but don’t be prudish. Be innocent but don’t be naïve. As a single woman you need to have an appropriate understanding of sexuality rather than being completely ignorant of it.
Why you should be more like Meagan Good…
You must glorify God with your sexuality. One of the things I love about Good and her husband’s relationship is their decision to remain celibate until they got married. I love it more because they did it to honour God; not just to look cool. When you’re single, glorifying God means resisting sexual temptation. And when you’re married it means having awesome, God glorifying sex with your husband.
You’re not perfect. Good doesn’t fit the typical good-girl-next-door stereotype. Her wardrobe choices are very revealing and the characters she chooses to depict are… interesting. Don’t confuse being a Christian with being perfect. You can be a Christian and make bad choices, just like everyone else. The difference between Christians and everyone else is that we’re being changed by the Gospel. You are not perfect; you are work in progress who is being transformed by the power of the Holy Spirit.
You want to be "known". Need I say more?
Ithink that most women feel conflicted about their sexuality. We want to be sexy but we’re not sure if that’s okay. You were created to be confident and comfortable with your sexuality, not ashamed of it. Understanding what this means is a journey and it begins with submitting your sexuality to God.
Do you agree?